The professionals made money from very expensive lawyers, Realtors and right down the line to the appraisers. But get this into your head, it is your money, but it will be theirs; you have a choice, you can make professionals rich and yourself poor or you can go ahead to get your revenge.
Frankly, the best revenge in the world is to live well – financially, emotionally, physically and spiritually. If you use the system to get your revenge, you will suffer in all fronts ,and when it is all over, too much time will have passed and you will rarely come out ahead.
In the beginning Its all about being a couple. At the end it's about assets, access to children and support. Read through the advice offered and consider your options. You can of course embitter your children against the other spouse and drag out the entire process for years. The Lawyers will be pleased you proved "IT" what ever it was.